Saturday, December 17, 2011
Something my sister Gail said to me last night has really been on my mind. She was telling me about one of her greatest desires. She said she wanted God to give her such a loving, caring heart. She wants to get to the point where she has such compassion for people and empathy for whatever they may be going through. She said more, but I couldn't remember it word for word. I guess what was puzzling to me was, in my eyes she is already blessed with these loving qualities. Not to say she doesn't get mad occasionally, or frustrated by others, she is only human (a fact that took me some time to realize).
I realize here at the holidays you have your twice-a-year do-gooders. Those are the people who like to be recognized for doing something "charitable" for families who are less fortunate. For some reason, they fail to realize that the other 363 days of the year, these same people or families would probably like to be thought about. It is not always about the money, food or clothing either, sometimes people just need company or a friend or family member to remember that they exist.
My admiration is for those who help others behind closed doors. I know of several people who have lovingly given to others in need that they didn't even know. They did it because they believe in "paying it forward." They didn't run to the nearest church to feed the hungry only during the holidays, they didn't show up to make food boxes for the needy so that everyone would notice what "charitable" people they were at Christmas. The people I am referring to are the quiet givers. The "I don't need any recognition" givers.
If we truly want to be blessed, I know I do, we will pray that God gives us that pure heart that Gail was talking about last night. We do things out of compassion or empathy to help those who may not have the things we do. We do it without strings attached, or without the fanfare. We remember those who may be falling on hard times, or those who have made some unwise decisions in their lives but are trying to make life better. We do these things without Judging. If you have the attitude that "people make their own beds" then you will always be just an artificial do-gooder and never a genuinely good-hearted giver.