You would think those two words have the same meaning, but far from it. To be feminine in today's world seems to be something to be ridiculed for. It is somehow impossible to be smart and pretty. You must be one or the other and either way, it seems you cannot win.
Sarah Palin comes to mind. She bursts on the scene as a potential vice presidential candidate and brought enthusiasm and charisma. Her resume was something that should be envied by most young women and those who aspire for greatness. There was one big problem with Sarah, she was just too pretty and perky. Some people think she is dumber than a box of rocks. Because she didn't answer Katie's questions the way some thought she should, she was automatically labeled a ditz. Funny though, many years ago the media was calling Katie "perky", I don't think she appreciated it, but obviously she did not let it hold her back.
I sometimes wonder what irritates the Sarah haters more, the fact that she is pretty and successful, or is it because she has shown that you can have it all. Why can't you?? If all it takes is to be pretty and perky to become the Governor of Alaska, or the governor of any state, why do we not see more beautiful Governors. Could it be possible that Sarah actually has the brains and know how to successfully carry out the duties as well as any man.
Have you noticed that no one questions the abilities of the not so attractive people like Sotomayor, or Napolitano, even Hillary Clinton. Somehow they are not a threat to some women, so questioning their qualifications is never an issue.
Putting politics aside you have women like Michelle Duggar. She is a pretty, soft spoken, dedicated wife and mother who chose to have 19 children. Yet if you read some blogs she is an idiot, a brainless baby making machine, subservient to her husband and she couldn't possibly be happy. See, I don't see that. I see a very strong but confident woman. A woman who is proud to have many children and takes great pride and joy in raising them. She adores her husband as he does her, but for some reason some people just can't seem to stomach that kind of happiness. They would swear that it was fake. On the other hand they loved Roseann, the filthy mouth, overweight, tackless character that she played on TV. They think it is hilarious the way she raises her kids and talks down to her husband. They love her lazy persona and lack of ethics. Women seem to relate to her easier, and that is sad.
In my opinion, no one should be sorry for being successful and pretty. No one should have to prove anything to anyone except themself. Who am I to make fun of Sarah or Michelle. I could not imagine being able to fill their shoes. I may not agree with everything they say or do, but I respect their right to live their life the way they see fit. I am not so insecure that I have to make fun of the way she speaks or the fact that she answers a question wrong. I am not going to judge Michelle Duggar for having 19 kids that she and her husband support themselves and do not rely on taxpayers to support them. I am not going to criticize Sarah for making money at speaking engagements, I applaud her and wish that I could draw the crowds that she can.
As a matter of fact, I will not apologize for being who I am. I am Lisa, Chris's wife, mom to Brandon, Tara and Jacob and Nana to Abby and Brenden. I will not apologize for being outspoken, a writer, a student. I will not apologize for standing up for abused women and children. I am proud to be me. I am thankful for everything God has blessed me with. Yes, I am not too proud to give God all the Glory!